Some thoughts and ramblings...

1. I have learned as a woman to, "NEVER TELL A FEMALE FRIEND TO LEAVE HER MAN!!"  Reasons why:  If she leaves him and she's unhappy and ish like that, it's all YOUR FAULT, because YOU told her to.
   If she doesn't leave him and endures the same bull, somehow, it's STILL your fault because she's going to keep thinking about what you said and blah blah blah!
2. Just a question: "Are relationships based on lies and deceptive illusions?"
   Of course it could just be me!
    
3. Do people really ever just marry for love and what happens when those bad times hit, do you find yourself running for the hills?
   Case in point.  A great friend of mine, her mom has alzymers/MS, and her father does not want to take care of his wife.  He wants his daughters who are just starting their lives with family and mortgages to take care of her, while he galavants himself all over the world.
   'Personally, I find that rather selfish of him.  I know that somewhere in those vows there was a part that said, "FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE.  IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH!"' 
   My parents, for one, never married for love etc, it was a matter of money, they were both in great careers and blah blah.  A merging of dollars if you will.  I have no idea if somewhere along the line, love ever showed its face.
4. Can you speak too much during sex? 
   When does it get to be be just "TOO MUCH?"
   'When you start over dirty talking as though you're reading a monologue as a prelude to a movie, I say, yes it's too much. 
   Case in point, I once watched a gf of mine have sex with her man, "it was one of their fantasies," and during it, they were literally speaking about "THE WEATHER!" I KID YOU NOT!  And you would of thought it would have dampned the whole thing, but good gooly, it only amped them up more!!
   I don't mind some dirty talk, I'm more of a, "TELL YOU WHAT TO DO AND NOT COACH YOU, BUT CONGRATULATE YOU TYPE OF TALKER." You know, "ooh dayum baby, yea that's the spot, oh gawd, do that again, yea, eat this pussy, DON'T YOU MOVE FROM THAT SPOT, you like that, pull my hair, ooh fuk, YES, YES!!!   Stuff like that.  Other than that, I personally think that "Sex is not a time to chat" infact it's one of the few instances where it is perfectly appropriate to SHUT UP.
    
5. Are there certain things in a relationship that you still NEVER SAY or DO? 
   Sure thing.  you NEVER FART in front of a man you are JUST getting to know! lol
6.  Question for the men: "do you feel perfume has the power to truly turn you on?"
   As a woman, I truly, TRULY do not care for perfume.  The odd occassion, but my soap which is naturally made with honey and vanilla beans, infuse me perfectly. 
7. Looking back on my dating file, I can honestly say that I enjoyed being Emotionally unavailable and having hot steamy sex with whomever I wanted; whenever I wanted!  Does that mean I do not value myself, my body, perhaps looking back, on some level, I don't know, all I know is that I enjoyed sex and still do. When I was in a relationship, I was IN IT. Nothing was off the table.  BUT, once you cross me and hurt me, I DON'T THINK TWICE TO GIVE A SECOND CHANCE! IT'S OVER AS EASILY AS IT BEGAN.
8. Is saying, "I was wrong" the one thing men, SOME men, can't say? 
   My asnwer to my question, "hhhmmm, not so sure, many can't say, "I LOVE YOU" unless their feet seems to be clinging to the edge of a cliff!