What yuh really trying to say and or do?

I call my client today to set up an appointment after leaving phone calls and emails, all which go by unanswered.  So, I finally take myself down to her office to get the necessary done, because she has an overly incompetent assistant who believes Ronald McDonald really does run McDonalds'.  I arrive to speak to her directly, because like I mentioned assistant, "not so good at what she does."  She stops me and says to me, "I'm sorry she's unavailable at the moment." I said, "well contact her and get her available because after tomorrow I am unavailable for one month."  She walks inside her office, and I can see her sitting in her chair looking outside her window.  Immediately I think, 'great, some stupid personal drama is about to come out.'

Ms. Assistant comes out, looks at me and ushers me in.  This is the convo or so most of it:

Her: Ms. T, how are you today, sorry I did not get back to you earlier but, my BOYFRIEND and I just broke up!

Me: *open mouth to speak, she continues to speak, so I close my mouth and listen.....*

Her: Can you believe it, after 5 months he sends me a DM on Twitter and breaks up with me!  That lousy 25 year old son-of-a-bitch-who-screwed-his-lowlife father-mamasboy.

The SwapMen Party Review.

So, everyone arrives, men are looking tasty, 30 invited, 80 show up etc. 

The night was going very, extremely perfect, UNTIL, 2 of my gf's apparently dated the same man at the same time for 3 years none never the wiser.  I myself NEVER knew this.  Well, the room was about to find out just how much sneaking around and covering tracks one does lol

B.Y.O.M. PARTY

Tonight, I'm having a B.Y.O.M. PARTY (BRING YOUR OWN MAN).  It's a swap for ex boyfriends, exhusbands lol.  What didn't work for you, may be heaven for another.  So, I sent out 30 evites, I have 80 people rsvp, how is that possible? Goodness. I told these women to bring ONLY 1 EX, this just goes to show why some of them are single, lol.  THEY DON'T LISTEN!! LOL.

As with everything I do, I have standards, why did I receive an email asking me if she can bring her ex who was and probably STILL is a drug dealer who loves to dress with that stupid ass gold grill in his stupid ass mouth, clothese 13 sizes too large and flashing a bunch of FAKE jewellery!  Jeeze...*make a note to NEVER send her an evite to another of my functions.*

Some thoughts and ramblings...

1. I have learned as a woman to, "NEVER TELL A FEMALE FRIEND TO LEAVE HER MAN!!"  Reasons why:  If she leaves him and she's unhappy and ish like that, it's all YOUR FAULT, because YOU told her to.
   If she doesn't leave him and endures the same bull, somehow, it's STILL your fault because she's going to keep thinking about what you said and blah blah blah!
2. Just a question: "Are relationships based on lies and deceptive illusions?"
   Of course it could just be me!
    
3. Do people really ever just marry for love and what happens when those bad times hit, do you find yourself running for the hills?
   Case in point.  A great friend of mine, her mom has alzymers/MS, and her father does not want to take care of his wife.  He wants his daughters who are just starting their lives with family and mortgages to take care of her, while he galavants himself all over the world.
   'Personally, I find that rather selfish of him.  I know that somewhere in those vows there was a part that said, "FOR BETTER OR FOR WORSE.  IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH!"' 
   My parents, for one, never married for love etc, it was a matter of money, they were both in great careers and blah blah.  A merging of dollars if you will.  I have no idea if somewhere along the line, love ever showed its face.
4. Can you speak too much during sex? 
   When does it get to be be just "TOO MUCH?"
   'When you start over dirty talking as though you're reading a monologue as a prelude to a movie, I say, yes it's too much. 
   Case in point, I once watched a gf of mine have sex with her man, "it was one of their fantasies," and during it, they were literally speaking about "THE WEATHER!" I KID YOU NOT!  And you would of thought it would have dampned the whole thing, but good gooly, it only amped them up more!!
   I don't mind some dirty talk, I'm more of a, "TELL YOU WHAT TO DO AND NOT COACH YOU, BUT CONGRATULATE YOU TYPE OF TALKER." You know, "ooh dayum baby, yea that's the spot, oh gawd, do that again, yea, eat this pussy, DON'T YOU MOVE FROM THAT SPOT, you like that, pull my hair, ooh fuk, YES, YES!!!   Stuff like that.  Other than that, I personally think that "Sex is not a time to chat" infact it's one of the few instances where it is perfectly appropriate to SHUT UP.
    
5. Are there certain things in a relationship that you still NEVER SAY or DO? 
   Sure thing.  you NEVER FART in front of a man you are JUST getting to know! lol
6.  Question for the men: "do you feel perfume has the power to truly turn you on?"
   As a woman, I truly, TRULY do not care for perfume.  The odd occassion, but my soap which is naturally made with honey and vanilla beans, infuse me perfectly. 
7. Looking back on my dating file, I can honestly say that I enjoyed being Emotionally unavailable and having hot steamy sex with whomever I wanted; whenever I wanted!  Does that mean I do not value myself, my body, perhaps looking back, on some level, I don't know, all I know is that I enjoyed sex and still do. When I was in a relationship, I was IN IT. Nothing was off the table.  BUT, once you cross me and hurt me, I DON'T THINK TWICE TO GIVE A SECOND CHANCE! IT'S OVER AS EASILY AS IT BEGAN.
8. Is saying, "I was wrong" the one thing men, SOME men, can't say? 
   My asnwer to my question, "hhhmmm, not so sure, many can't say, "I LOVE YOU" unless their feet seems to be clinging to the edge of a cliff!

Single on Valentine's Day

Being single on what is "commercially exploited as the most LOVED DAY" in the year, is not a crime!  I rather enjoy it.  "If you can't find someone to love, then love the one you're with".

Personally, I will be loving the one I'm with, and that's ME!  I'll be going shopping momentarily to shop for some super lingerie, I've already booked my room at a great hotel for the wknd and am going to indulge myself in one of their couples spa specials, won't they be thrown for a loop when I waltz in Single, Sexy and Fancy FREE, :)

Point is ladies, and I'm addressing you all because sadly we are the ones who tend to fall into a slump if we don't have that 'special man' to be with on this billion dollar card generating so called special day, you are not less of a woman if you do not have a man or a woman to love you in that special way.  The world or your life will not come to a screeching halt if you are single on February 14, any year! 
Take yourself out and have fun.  If you have single girlfriends, get together do something great with eachother.  Don't be a dudd!!

Love yourself enough to know that you are the most special person EVER!!  Because truthfully, If you do not love yourself, how can you expect anyone else to?  CELEBRATE YOU!!

(Can't remember where I got those pics from, some clipart site)

We Women are to be FEARED!

Oh how we love a good scandal, and this young not to be Mayor anymore has certainly learned his lesson, or so we hope, lol. 

How did this get out?  Well it's simple.

NEVER have sex with a vindictive 20 year old university student on the sofa in your office, text her and say, "you look really good naked," then go out and NOT introduce her as your girlfriend.  Because this will only turn on the Phoenix within her and the need for her 13.4minutes of destructive fame. Lol


Goodness, he didn't last a hot second in this.  He was literally In and Out, on & off.  I suspect much like the sex on the sofa in his office, lol

I Have Always Said,

'That Beyonce' would look flat out dangerously destructive in a Carnival Costume.  If not Trinidad & Tobago's Carnival, then definitely Brazil.  And, I am glad to see that I was NOT wrong!  HOT TO DEATH!!

P.s. "JUST LOOK AT THAT INCREDIBLE HEADPIECE!"

The Source

There are times,

when I am totally embarassed to be black, not just a black woman, but, black on the whole.  Sadly, when other loud talking, cussing black men and or women come around me, I can't stick around them, simply because the way they speak, and the way they murder the english language literally makes my skin itch.

There is no selfrespect, and if you do not have that for yourself, then you certainly do not have it for anyone else.

How is it you're going to get mad when another race uses the N-word, and so forth?  I've been told by some black people that 'IF only I really understood the plight of the blackMAN during slavery.....' and blah blah blah.  My thing is this.  Too many times we as black people reach for that always there 'race card', even when it's not called for, and use it as some sort of a crutch for reasons unbeknownest to me.   Yes, slavery was a horrible time for our people, and for many other races who have suffered at the hands of some madman subjacating races into slavery, but does that mean, you hold on to that FOREVER?  Keep holding onto that of the past and you will never leave the past.

Prepaid Credit Cards

My sis wants a credit card, but of course she can't get one, so we were looking into loadable cc's.  Well, I've never liked Credit cards you load yourself etc, and I'm sure they come in very handy for some people, however, after checking out ALL the fees that come along with this Opus mastercard, I have decided to just get an additional card for my sis.

Reviews of Prepaie CC's

Why date secretly?

Secretly dating is the most ridiculous thing ever.  I know a gentleman for over 11 years now, we're not super friends, however, we have the ability to just pick up from where we left off without skipping a beat, I recently saw him very much out of way in a little restaurant I love, and while I went over to say hi to him etc, he NEVER introduced me to the lady who he was having dinner with, so I introduced myself to her and in an instant he said to me,"yea, T I'll call you later" and ushered me away from the table. 

So when he called me and we were speaking, he mentioned to me that, 'he's never met a woman like her who makes him feel at ease and so calm and loved and all that.  Yet, she's not the one on a much larger scale.' 

I mean seriously, what the hell does that mean? lol.  It means some people are pigs, that's what it means!

Personally I believe you must never waste another person's time by using them for such a long time then turn around and hide them from the rest of the world.  Sooner or later that person will open their eyes and LEAVE!

It is a very very VERY selfish act!