4 questions women regularly ask me.

This is the just one of the many questions that was asked of me today by a few women who took the time to email me regarding my blog and my marathon dating style.  So, here goes....

1. First question: "Where do you meet the men you date and what type of man do you date?"
   Answer:  Firstly, I meet men any and everywhere I go.  I also speed date, I tend to read different news papers and check out what's happening in various neighborhoods.  Just because I'm a woman of color does not mean I can only attend soca/dancehall parties, hip hop/r'n'b type parties.  I like doing various things which take me out of my comfort zone, so I'm usually opened to doing a lot of things.  Here are a few sites for speed dating in Toronto, http://www.singleinthecity.ca/ http://www.25dates.com/ http://www.fastlife.ca
   The type of men I date are professionals, business owners, etc.  I am not into dating badboys, unemployed men etc.  I work hard for what I have so it's important for me to meet someone on my level, true I'm not going to marry the individual, but, you never know.
2. Second question:  "Why do you date as you do?"
   Answer:  I date as I do because after dating someone for almost 6 years and it ended with nothing to show for it and after being alone for 2 years, I decided to just get myself back out there into the social swim of things, however, it was going to be my way or no way at all.  I enjoy dating different men and getting to know people.  It's not always as sexual as most people may think.  There are some genuinely great men out there, one may take only the time to look.
3. Third question:  "Are you sexual on the first date?"
   If I am going on a one-night stand date, well yes, however, I have stopped doing that.  I have a 5 date minimum before I sleep with someone, however, there are those times when I have met someone and the attraction has been impossible to not get some on the first date :)
4. Fourth question:  "Do you remain friends with these men and would you date them again?"
   Some men are still in my phone book and we call and go out frequently.  Naturally, there are those douchebags who are just not worth it after date one.
   
   Well that's it for the questions for today :)  But, check out some of those sites and google some stuff, you'll be amazed as to who you can meet in the line at the supermarket, movie theater, hospital, mall, take tour of a country club, golf course and step out of your comfort zone, dress well, have a great attitude, be positive, carry yourself like a queen and exude all the confidence in the world even if you are shaking in your heels or whatever it is you're wearing :)  Be bold, be brave and may the 'force be with you!!'

Supersonic night

I went on a date with a sweet Rican guy last night, and my gf Ana and her new beau accompanied us, firstly,it's freezing and she wore strappy stilettos, you know what that meant?  If we were to stand in line, she could have gotten frost bite and possible toes fallen off, lol (I know extreme case).
Well, I offered to drive my gf, her beau and myself to the spot and meet him there, there's something about me in my own car that's great comfort to me, it means I can leave whenever I want to :)

Anyway, we get there, everything is great, got a seat etc, yes, I said SEAT.  As I position myself and I look up, here comes Mr. GQ, "gawd dayum, I said as he made his way through the crowd," truly, I got moist instantly!  He's tall, well dressed, in shape, killer smile, great teeth awesome demeanor etc.  He greeted me with that smile, tight hug and kiss, as his hands passed around my waist, he smoothed down and patted my behind...*teeheeeee*, I chuckled like a school girl :) and I kissed him back.  Mmmmm

He taught me to do all those amazing dances, I mean I'm a West Indian, our waistlines naturally move independentally to the rest of our body :).  It was a great date!  Excellent evening.  I kind of lost track of my gf and her man, but, they found me when it was time to leave.

Will be seeing Mr. Rican for breakfast in the morning.

I'm off to the Salsa Club

Or shall I say, "my Rican date" :)

I Love, LOVE this Love Muffin, the Original Love Muffin...

HO-Have-A-SEAT!!

B. SCOTT PSA: HO-HAVE-A-SEAT

Lol, you just have to laugh

I recently met this girl at work, who I believe to be bi-sexual.  Why, you may ask I say such, well reason being is :

1. Her walking by and always managing to touch me somehow, somewhere on my body, legs, shoulders, neck, almost lips, *yes, I know.
2. Her walking and rubbing up against me.
3. Always saying things like, "Hey, I know who/what I am and I know who/what I like and I have my type."  Always followed by her looking dead at me in my face and a wink, lol...and the thing with me is, when you stare, I don't back down until you do...so naturally she's probably thinking the same thing I am thinking about her.

I am tempted to approach her and ask her what her story is, but, I truly am not in the mood to have no female all up on me, I've been there done that and while it was nice, I'm not into pussy a lot.  Like her, I to have my "type" and she's just not it.  Lol, once or twice maybe 3 times for the year, but it's not on my menu regularly.  You feel me? :)

Oh Please you Moron

When you join a dating site, please, I beg you, PLEASEEEEEEEEEEE do not LIE about how you look, and your height and of course some other things.  Tonight, I had a dinner date with a guy I met while speeddating about 2 months ago.  In his profile he stated to being single for 2 years, and his words, "I've been single for 2 years 3 months and 2 days, I'm not saying I haven't been intimate with anyone, but no one special to call my woman and that's what I'm looking for."

Tina: "do you have any kids, jobless, out on probation, crazy ex stalking you, anything like that?"
Thomas: "lol, oh wow, you're funny.  I do have a job, I don't have any kids, not on probation, no ex to stalk me, we ended on a very good note, I'm really glad I met you though."
Tina: "tell me somet...." *didn't even have time to finish the sentence
((INTERRUPTED BY A WOMAN))
Woman: "oh hi Thomas, how are you?  I see you're looking well, tell La Rene' *yea you read correctly, La Rene'* I said hi babes.  ((and she walks off))
He looks at me and I smile.
Tina: "are we gonna order now?"
.....about 30 mins later, his cell is going off every second, as soon as the vm picks up, it rings again, eventually I suggested he get the phone, lol
Who do you think it was?  That's right "La Rene' his GIRLFRIEND of 5 
years"
You know I didn't stick around.  The last thing I need is some woman attacking me in public.
I tell you, men are nothing more than breathing walking testosterone receptacles!


Which leads me to say this: "Ladies if you catch your man cheating with another woman, don't get mad at her, kick his ass instead, especially if he lied to the woman about not having a woman in his life etc.  Don't ever get all stupid and cause a scene with the woman, handle yourself with your man.

I don't care for porn

but hey, that's just me.  I have never been into it in a huge way, from time-to-time, if I'm dating someone, we'll sit and watch it for jokes and point out the fakeness of some of them etc, but, to sit, watch, masturbate and make "clarice" sing off to it, has never been a big deal for me.  I'm sure I'm not the only person, but somehow some pornos make me wanna gag, and not in a pleasurable way at all, if gagging is ever pleasurable.

Black'on'Black

A friend of mine has a super photographer friend who did a series on himself called, "Black'on'Black', check out one of the pics :)

Hmmmm, 2 wonderful men

I had a great dinner with Mr. Italiano tonight.  He's hilarious and I love that about a man who can hold my attention, make me laugh and think.  It was a wonderful date, and hellooooo, he asked me out again, hmmmm.  I wonder if I should tell boss-wanna-be-my-man that lol?  Which reminds me, Boss-wanna-be-my-man seems to be of the envious type and I don't care much for that type, however, I can be wrong!

Negro PLEASE!

First let me address 3 things from my day...

1. Some strange ass guy approached me today with the most ridiculous American accent, and he's fully off the boat from St. Vincent!  Why brothas, why oh why do you feel you have to speak like Tony Soprano when clearly you are not qualified!
2. Do not EVER, EVER take God out your thoughts and hail me out especially when you DO NOT know my name and or who the heck I am!  I'm minding my own business and I'm hearing a sound, of course no one is addressing me so I will not answer, then all of a sudden he comes to me and says, "didn't you hear me calling you?"  I am with a group of colleagues, so naturally, I look at him and said, "now, listen to me, you do not know who I am, where I am from or what I am about.  I must tell you here and now infront of witnesses, I do not ever respond to "hey, baby, yo, honey, wsup ma' and stuff like that.  I'm not an around the way chic from your block so I suggest if you want to speak to  me, you take the time to approach me, like a gentleman, now I see that this may be a long shot, but try it anyway."  And I left him there.
3. When you are a store owner and you are shoveling snow from in front of your store, lol, please do not smoke weed while you are doing it, because the thing is you never know when or where a cop will show up, as in the case of the 7.11 owner tonight, he wasn't arrested, but he was given a ticket lol